🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

This week an old post I wrote on facebook started circulating again. It got a lot of comments. It was me announcing that I needed space from Instagram and facebook.

It's funny because I wrote it a year ago, and have been enjoying how not-on-my-radar posting on Facebook feels. I love the mental space.

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But some people just noticed it and responded to it like it was new that I wasn't on there as much. Someone said they wanted to hear updates about what I was up to.

That inspired me to write this! As an email not a Facebook post.

These days as a mom, email is so much more efficient because I won't get sidetracked by something I see on the feed.

I do scroll Facebook a little (and regret it half the time), because I got bored breastfeeding or because something I need is on there.

It's so easy to get distracted and forget the point of why I was on Facebook, though, and it makes me not feel as present with my son after I get off of it, so I don't like doing it much.

Anyway I wanted to address that question, "What am I up to?"

I'm a mom of a 9 and a half week baby. He recently went through a growth spurt. He's only been napping during the day on top of me or my husband's body.

I don't know if the baby has changed his mind about that yet. I figure when my husband's paternity leave ends in a week, I'll try to put him in the crib for day naps more, but we can stick to the contact naps for now since we have two people trading off.

I like to spend my contact nap shift watching TV, which is one of my few bits of leisure. Bridgerton's new season is good. The Last Thing He Told Me on Apple TV with Jennifer Gardner was compelling.

I like to spend my husband's nap shift doing chores like dishes, laundry, or essentials like feeding us all, taking medicinal epsom salt baths, using the toilet, doing PT exercises, or working on my business taxes.

Sometimes I don't have a lot of time. A thing I do to multitask is to eat my food in the tub. I know it sounds really unhygienic, but I just hold a bowl or plate above the water while I soak my legs, and it's a great timesaver for a new mom.

You never know when the baby will wake up to cut a warm meal or a warm bath short. The baths are to melt my aches, not primarily about becoming more zen, but they can help with that as well.

I like to watch my husband and my baby together. The baby laughed for the first time this past week, at my husband, of course. The pair is very cute. And the baby is cute alone, when he's just with me, asleep or playing.

We both constantly talk to the baby, which is what you are supposed to do to make them smarter, but it's also just how we amuse ourselves. We also make up songs.

The baby may need me to stop writing soon. My bowl of soup sits forgotten as I write this...I should eat some...

I try to write when I can. I like writing emails this way, like letters to a friend. And it's nice to be able to send this quickly to my friends without a bunch of other crap getting in the way like Facebook.

I started journaling on paper again lately, for the first time since the end of 2025 when I gave birth. It's starting to feel easier.

It's starting to get easier to think in general, because the baby is sleeping better at night. Not all night, he still needs to eat in the middle of the night several times...but his sleep is better and longer. I go to sleep when he does, around 7, 8, 9, 10 pm or whenever he decides.

Sleep deprivation is no joke.

Anyway, I'm writing less than I did before even though I'm not writing zero. But I am okay with it.

It helps to know everything is a season. There will be things I don't do for a while or don't do the same way. I don't need to force it.

On my post about Facebook, a lot of people tried to help by suggesting ways to solve the problem of how to post there more...but I'm not interested in solving that problem right now.

Sometimes the answer isn't to figure out how to do a hard thing. Sometimes it is fine to just wait until it gets easier on its own, or to just let it go for now.

I feel like our society is all about overcoming challenges. Finding a way, no matter what. It's like a game or a pride thing, maybe. Or someone else did it, so you can, too.

Sometimes I don't choose to overcome the challenge. There are so many possible challenges I could tackle, I choose to let some things stay unconquered.

I'm managing my energy. And there's nothing wrong with people being different, some people will choose to solve X problem, while I might choose to really not care to think on it further.

Right now, I just see my baby's beautiful face in my mind. He's so much work and so worth it. I tackle challenges daily while taking care of him.

How to juggle him in my arms and also do XYZ.

How to take care of his needs and respond to his cries.

How to lay trapped under his napping for as long as possible without killing my neck, arm or back.

Speaking beyond Facebook posts, I am writing less right now than I have in decades, and I am okay with it.

There's so much I am not doing right now, (because I barely have time to use the toilet or eat)

...and for the most part I don't mind.

The things I care about, I am doing or I know I'll figure a way out to do. Or circumstances will eventually change to allow that.

But being on Facebook more isn't high priority at all.

Last Thoughts

My final thought before I lose the opportunity to finish this email is --

You are the one who decides how you should spend your time and what problems to care to solve right now.

Even if everyone else is doing it. Even if you used to do it, too.

You can change your mind.

You can be different from others, and

it isn't a slight on other people's opinions;

it is just purely authenticity. Living your own life.

It isn't a failure, it's a success at following your real priorities.

I know someone needs to hear this.

I've known many people to change goals around their writing and feel shame about it.

I've spoken about ungoaling before and how important it can be. It means removing a goal and undoing it in your mind, which can be a process.

Many people feel like they can't give themselves permission to change their mind or behavior if it means they won't reach one of their writing goals.

(These are goals which they set in the past, before a revelation or a change, and never would have committed to had they known the wind was about to change).

It's especially hard to let go of old goals when telling people about it feels like "failing" in public.

But you can't let your past self or other people dictate your entire future.

I'm glad I've gotten to a point in my life where I care less about changing my mind, changing in general, or appearing to fail at something that I no longer even care about.

I've lost people to cancer, I've gotten older, gotten perspective, and I just don't care as much anymore about the little things.

Life is TOO short to spend energy on things that aren't a high priority. And only you know what those are.

Pursue the new thing. Ditch the old.

I'll be the person in the room who says consistency and follow-through with writing goals is great, but so is pitching sh-t out the window when it no longer serves.

Rip it off like a Band-Aid, if you have to, or taper off; whatever feels right. But stop going the same way if things have gotten stale.

Hope that helps whoever needed to hear it.

Let me know if this speaks to you by shooting me a quick reply!!!

xoxoxo

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